Why is it that we are so prone to nitpick at our spouse? The qualities that initially attracted us to our spouse are often times the same exact traits that the enemy uses to pin us against each other.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, “encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
My wife and I put a piece of card stock with the phrase “I felt loved when…” in a picture frame in our bedroom. With a dry erase marker, we write down actions the other person did that made us feel loved. It’s simple, but really acts as a catalyst of encouragement – try it!
Recently, my wife took our kids for an hour or so while I went out for a bike ride on a beautifully warm and sunny October day (which doesn’t happen much around here!). I let her know how much that made me feel loved.
When you get into the habit of nitpicking, it breeds more nitpicking.
When you get in the habit of pointing out ways you feel loved by your spouse, it breeds more encouragement and more intentionality in serving your spouse.
What if we chose to tell and thank our spouse when they did something loving for us? What if we chose to serve them rather than nitpick at them?
True love lays down its life for another. True friends encourage one another.
Remember today that your spouse is your best friend – choose to encourage them and lay your life down for them.