In this second post, I’d like to talk about giving each other some breaks. No matter how introverted or extroverted you are, everyone needs some alone time, or time out with the girls or guys. This is especially true if you have kids – although you love them, you’ll be a better parent if you can get away from time to time.
Each week when we look at our calendars, we discuss who is getting a break and when. Each week, my wife gets one night out where she doesn’t have to put kids to bed. She also gets a couple mornings to herself. These things are simply necessary for her soul and make her a better mom and wife. Each week, she gives me an hour or two alone on Monday morning which is my day off. It’s nice for me to be able unwind spiritually and emotionally after leading worship all weekend.
So, my challenge to you is simple: set a date to sit down together and share your honest feelings – what breaks would you have ideally if there were no obstacles? Be straightforward with your spouse about what you need. From there, see what plan you can put in place to see to it that at least some of this becomes a reality. It might not all be feasible due to logistics, but even a small start will yield big results in your marriage and family.
Ephesians 5:33 says, “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Husbands: if you love your wife as you love yourself, you’ll give her a break from housework and the kids. That’s what you want some days if you’re being honest, so make it happen for her out of your love for her.
Wives: if you respect your husband, you recognize what he does at work and at home as a provider and father. Give him some time to recharge – he’ll come back in better shape for you.
So, this week – share the ideal and begin what is possible. You won’t regret it!
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